5 simple ways to become an optimist

Optimists briskly paced life light-footed, with a smile and an open heart. They quickly forget about the bad and look with hope to the future. In general, as you know, optimism is not a traditional feature of the traditional Russian mentality, which without good reason not to smile, but most of the time wallow in painful reflection. It is time to finish with this destructive stereotype, as an optimistic person - does not mean superficial.

Mental health and nerves of positive thinking adherents much better than everyone else. Maybe just the time has come to develop the traits of an optimist and enjoy life?

1. Do not pay attention to the circumstances of

The world around us is very variegated, and the circumstances of it are constantly changing. Unpleasant situations, bad luck or black stripes can not be avoided - sooner or later, the mosaic of the universe was such that there will come the negative circumstances. Pessimists immediately begin to complain that everything is against them, there is no justice. They dwell on the negative, and thus make it even more gloomy, so someone actually starts to seem as if the whole world is against them. Relax. World conspiracy against you, the universe does not exist, and any black band has ended up the property, especially if the process is accelerated.

If the circumstances are not in your favor, it will analyze whether you can influence them. Can you - then fine, take action! Very soon, a series of setbacks recede under your pressure. If you can not, then there is nothing to be upset about it. Everything happened just because of what happened. Wait out - and the trouble will pass by itself.

2. Watch for facial expressions

The Americans have a saying: "Fake it until you make it". Literally: "mimics, until it becomes the truth." In some cases, this rough reception really works. For example, in the case of the smile and posture. If you smile, keep your back flat and doing open hand gestures (not pin them to the castle, do not pull at the sleeve or lock bags), they begin to act in mirror neurons in the brain. They are slightly substitutes cause and effect, so the more you imitate the good and the positive mood in the physical plane, the more your brain adapts to the image, and get used to the role.

The first time will have to go with an imperfect smile, but nothing just does not come. But after a week and a half flick itself you will notice that the smile is starting to become a sincere and now not only warms the hearts of others, but also your own. Porepetiruy only gestures and smiles in front of the mirror so as not to be trapped, like Arnold Schwarzenegger's character in "Terminator 2". A smile can be mild and barely noticeable, but resemble a predatory grin or grimace should not.

3. Try affirmations

Many modern women are biased to the techniques of affirmation, considering them empty language boltologiya, who came to us from the second-rate American booklets of pop psychology. Well, if you really will approach them in a slipshod manner, then they are useless and cause, at best, only ridicule. If the work is denser, then affirmations can set you on a positive footing. We remind you that the affirmation - it is a positive statement, which is to direct the flow of our thoughts in a positive way and help us change lives in the right direction.

For example, "I will get my dream job!" - and let it rough, but an affirmation.

Our subconscious mind is not up to snuff, so that the more complex our personality, the more "point" and a deep need to be affirmations. It is not enough simply to repeat a hundred times that you are the most charming and attractive. You also need to prove to myself that it's true.

So for affirmation should act as a successful technique. Write positive statements about his personal life, work, home and leisure time that motivate you in a positive and optimistic changes. Let them be very brief. Then sign for them in detail: for example, why you deserve a dream job, how much you worked to achieve it, what do you have the necessary skills and character traits to her as you will behave in the workplace and how you will achieve good results. In other words, to convince himself that the affirmation can work. And only then to follow the original simple phrase, recalling himself all the arguments. The more often you repeat, the better. As soon as you feel that the mood is spoiled - so lift it!

4. Take a good example of

For a good example of the positive in life have multiple sources. The first - a real communication. Find friends among the optimists, who are easy to chat and get to know them. Look how they behave in different situations and Motel on an imaginary mustache all the tricks of light positive behavior. The second source - literature. Find the famous characters from the light character that you admire. Read the curriculum vitae or biography to gain inspiration.

Finally, the third source - it is a culture. Together with deep and complex things sure to pick up the good share positive. See comedy and performances stendaperov, musicals and a jolly good series. Punctuated by light music heavy and not only read Dostoevsky and Kafka.

5. Start emotions blog

Start recording all the strong emotions that you experience in a day. Divide a sheet of a notebook in half - on one half let it be negative, on the other - positive. Together with emotion write down the reason because of which it arose, and all my thoughts at the time and later.

In the case of negative emotions such a diary will help you to speak out and blow off steam, so that the present irritation and accumulation of negativity will not appear. And all the good you can repeatedly re-experience, reading good memories. Your goal - to make the negative emotions in a diary as small as possible, and positive - as much as possible. Good luck!