7 ways be charming

Once I got acquainted with children from one musical group, and they are all vying told about their guitarist, who fought on the spot by their appearance on the stage. I am not so easy to win. "Maybe they're just exaggerating" - so I thought as long as the guy is not a stranger came up to me and asked for a cigarette lighter. I immediately realized that this is the guitarist, which was lost for words. He looked completely normally and did not say anything special, but people drove crazy his charisma and charm. We talked a few years, he easily solved any problem only by the power of charm.

I wonder why some people are charming others. Often, the secret of their mastery in a few simple tricks that you can learn:

1. Give people feel important

Let people around you think they hear and understand that they are worthy of their paid time. No matter what their status. Give the other party to understand that your attention is completely devoted to him alone.

2. Use names

Surprisingly, charming people remember the names of all the others. Notice how TV presenters and the jury casting easily recall that the participant has already come to them before? Carefully remembering people's names, using mnemonic techniques, you aktiviziruesh work of his brain. And your companions will be pleased to know that you remember them, even if you have not seen for a year.

3. Be confident in compliments

When someone tells you a charming compliment, pay attention to the confidence with which he pronounces each word. No need to grind out a fake smile - get something for that person really should be commended. Watch the wording, be straight, but not dry.

4. Relax your face

On Reddit have flashmob "Resting Bitch Face", which is really relaxed and quiet people look like they want to kill someone. Participants clearly can not be called charming! Watch your facial expressions and facial expression, even if the thought of something. Numerous studies Psychology Today suggests that a smile makes you more attractive in the eyes of others and also affects your brain.

5. Have a story in reserve

No need to tell others about how to spent time yesterday. But an incredible story about how you got lost in the savannah, can easily lift all spirits. After such action-packed stories interlocutors remember you as an individual and not just another friend.

6. Talk hands

Great news for those who like to wave his hands while talking: perhaps it is this habit and attracts others to you! People who actively gesture, usually considered to be more open and agreeable, and their energy charges to the exploits. For such verbal conductors interesting to watch, but their gestures unconsciously want to repeat, and in their behavior.

7. Do not speak ill of others

I never heard of charming people someone condemned. Even when they do comment, it is usually sensible and constructive criticism. It does not spoil the mood - on the contrary, inspires and gives hope for improvement. Those who say nice things about others, according to the observations of psychologists, more open and emotionally stable people than those who are constantly troll Haight and snarls.