How to keep your lifestyle in depression

Depression is not a sentence, and I can even imagine that this state will be held, will move forward a little more active. So I think I am not alone, for example, Lars von Trier says that people who are subject to depression, try to be more calm in stressful situations than others, since they already expect bad things. Own theory it is perfectly highlighted in the film "Melancholia".

I believe that depression is important to receive special treatment from the doctor, take medication on time, as well as independently carry out a "home" work, and to understand what led to this state. All complicated by the fact that I can not leave work, creative projects and other commitments, so we have to represent that everything is in order. I had to develop some rules of survival:

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By itself, I chaotic and impulsive personality. Psychologists advise change the lifestyle. For explosive and energetic extrovert list - quite a change.

They should cover all areas: how much the rise, what days you need to wash my hair which days to wear a skirt, and when to go to the post office. Tuesdays - washing floors, on Thursday to shake up the cabinet. Write only the most necessary, the bare minimum for survival.

In practice, you may not have enough power even for washing dishes. But if you do it in advance zaplaniruesh subconsciously have time to prepare for such domestic problems. If you can not perform a task - to bypass the means at hand. There can be from plastic plates, but from not washed the floor in the evening not zavedutsya cockroaches. The main thing, as soon as you feel a slight rise strength to finish what threw.

Operation

Jobs probably will be the most difficult moment in your life. Throw it does not, financial problems can worsen mood, and months of wasted effort not want to burn.

During the depression, reduced concentration, self-confidence and ability to make informed decisions. It is possible to mentally increase the running time of any job twice - then maybe you can plan your day and take into account all factors.

I could go freelance, but every day I pull myself into the office. On the one hand, it is tiring and uncomfortable, on the other - you are not left alone with his thoughts. Well, if your colleagues have a lot to talk not only on operational issues. So you listen to interesting stories, and magically, if you do not have to participate in the discussion. But I'm afraid, not pull brainstorm. You can not defend their opinion, because in my head so much chaos, and you will not know whether it is your opinion at all, or you have imposed it, or invent an evil inner voice.

Food

See the first paragraph: eating on schedule. It stands out on meals more time. Previously, you could eat a whole plate faster than over a music video, but now do not climb. Do not want to eat anything - OK, but follow this whim is not necessary. You need to distract yourself for something bright and mesmerizing and slowly, little spoons to give the body nutrients. Fit and short cartoons, movies and National Geographic. The main thing - no complicated stories.

Appearance

It is necessary only once succumb to desire to go out without make-up, like a week later you can find yourself kind Baba-Yaga with not comb mane. The pile head of reasons and excuses: you stay still terrible, why spend so much time, so I need someone to look at me, no strength, shaking hands. In general, there should not be even a relaxing day, you need to repeat a daily routine, which you did, and before beginning to fall apart. Well, maybe a little easier, without toning the face. In normal times, I like to wear a black stuff, now wear very colorful. Juicy nail neon eyeliner. Maybe in my heart you have complete darkness, but let's at least pretend that everything's okay. Available every morning taking pictures of themselves and send photos to parents. They will be pleased, and it will be a good incentive for you to smile.

Love

Here it is necessary to pause. When depression is reduced sexual desire, so that the partner should explain that a temporary full and gay sex will not. Intimate touches can make you feel obligated, and piling up stereotypes still guilty - how he, poor, will suffer, yet suddenly find another. But if you do not want, you do not have to turn your sex life in the rape of a marathon. By the way, when there is a strong desire, it helps to distinguish perfectly the fleeting desire from serious feelings.

Meeting with friends

Nightmare - calling a classmate offers to meet. Denial is tantamount to social suicide, but show themselves as such

also impossible, because not everyone will understand and accept. Fortunately, people like porasskazyvat about yourself! Discuss in advance what you have just a couple of hours talking. Ask about what she was doing more leading questions.

Meeting with friends

It's all more complicated. I would divide their loved ones into three categories.

The first - the people who are going through crazy for you and talk with you, frowning. You feel sorry for them, but they absolutely do not know how to help, so sad for the company. They want to shake: hello, I itself can upset, why are you doing this? You will be good friend to me, even if you're gay, I do not ask to share your problems!

The second category - people who believe that it's all nonsense. "Stop yourself to cheat," "invent stupidity" and "all been reading on the Internet" - the top 3 phrases that I said each one of the search. Usually, they just do not understand the definition of depression and take for her usual autumn blues.

The third category - people who believe that you is vital to talk. Offered a drink and a chat. This is all due to the fact that he does not love you? This is because your dad did not like? The last thing a man wants to depression - to shake out all the cockroaches. Just hold my hand and let's keep quiet a little.

It turns out that the lack of friends, and help - not.

In fact, I do not know what it should be. I think we should give them read the articles about the disease, can come up with something clever.

At the same time you will feel a great sense of guilt for the fact that you can not be a good friend in return. You do not ask them how to do, do not send SIFCO with seals and absolutely nothing to aspire to discuss. Shame to have you, because your friends deserve more!

Doctors

Frankly, I am afraid to see a doctor. In google professionals complete, all bright pages, smiling photos, dozens of reviews. They write on than specialize, but if you look carefully, suddenly found that it is copied chapters from textbooks. It is as if the surgeon wrote that the US can do to take delivery and put a seal. Undoubtedly, his theoretical knowledge should be enough for you to help, but no one did not argue that this aid will be enough qualified? It seems to me a terrible situation when you come to the reception and discover there Zauchka which can neither empathy nor seek out the roots of the problem, and mumbling questions on a single algorithm. I do not want people just to talk. I can tell your story and on the Internet and even get great feedback there.

In any case, the search for a specialist - this is not an easy task, so there should not expect easy solutions. However, when you find "that same" doctor, you give a boost immediately. I found.

Drugs

Here is difficult to advise something, doctors prescribe drugs in accordance with certain parameters. Tranquilizers and antidepressants are released only by prescription, so just go to the drugstore and buy something, having read on the Internet, will not work.

What I can say for sure - the syndrome is not so terrible as he is painted. If the drug is suitable, but you do not neglect other forms of therapy - the desire to drink tablets will disappear by itself.

Even as the drug can act as change of diet. It should add a little more fish and eggs that contain tryptophan and vitamin D, as well as in the evening to eat a couple of bananas - they contain alkaloid Harman, a substance that causes a feeling of euphoria.

Do not do what you can not

In a state of depression completely fails to take important decisions that will affect your future destiny. Dismissal, an unplanned vacation, choosing the direction of education, marriage - the likelihood that you will regret it, is quite high.

In the difficult times of depression to sleep: sometimes you want to stay in bed for 20 hours, and sometimes you can not sleep a wink all night. For myself, I just brought the rule that if you can not sleep - do not force yourself, try to do something else. I did not get to watch movies and TV shows - I can not concentrate for more than 20 minutes. A couple of times I have had time to be upset, because watching a comedy, but it was not funny. It is foolish to not meet his own expectations, so just let yourself not to react, how to react before the depression came.

If you live alone - it is worth considering whether there is a possibility to temporarily move in with a friend or go back to her parents. In a state of depression can be quite dangerous for a long time to be alone, because it can enhance the strong negative thoughts and lead to suicidal impulses. It is important to discuss with potential neighbors as it occurs during your illness and what it is fraught, as well as to identify the approximate dates.