Habits losers

Habits inherent losers.

We often hear about all kinds of psychological training, which promise to teach us how to become more self-confident, or to improve their lives. It's much easier to blame and our habits. Yes, they make a person successful, or lower it to the bottom of the social ladder. Today, we have gathered a habit that betrays a man loser. If you find something on this list at home, then there is reason to think.

1. Communication with people who de-motivate

Dealing with people who are humiliated and de-motivate.

There are people, communication with them just the same charges with positive energy. They magically affect our self-esteem, inspire and instill confidence. However, there is another type - toxic people. They always criticize exude negative, say nothing. After talking with such characters there is a feeling of hopelessness, fatigue and fear.

Most often and Knockers judge, giving assessment to everyone, themselves from themselves represent nothing, have no outstanding achievements and hobbies. They are angry at the world, at your life and generously share their fears, doubts and complexes with others. Try to break or at least to minimize contact with such people. Like a stone on the neck of the swimmer, they will only pull on the bottom.

2. Keep your thoughts and feelings with you

I do not speak out, keep silent about their feelings.

Successful people always has an opinion and is willing to make it. It is impossible to succeed and realize their potential, if acquiesce with colleagues and associates. If you have a point of view, its own vision of a question or an interesting idea - do not be silent. The same is true of feelings, if you do not like something - tell me about it. If your environment is not ready to accept your ideas, to compromise or to reckon with your feelings, you may just not on the road.

3. Try to please everyone, and like

to go all out to please everyone.

American political activist, said: "I do not know the key to success, but the key to failure - to try to please everyone." In these words there is a grain of truth. First, no matter how you tried to please and please everyone is impossible. Because each person has his own opinion and taste. Secondly, all the while adjusting to the other, you suppress your own desires. Because of this, your heart will accumulate negativity which sooner or later will find a way. Finally, look at the well-known personalities. They have a lot of admirers and followers, but also many and opponents. Remember, people's opinion is subjective and will never be true.

4 to dwell on the past,

All the time experience of past mistakes.

Mistakes of the past must take into account the conclusions drawn from them and let go. If you think about something, go to the goal and do not tune that once again fail. Any successful person will agree that there are no ups, no downs. Each mistake - it is an experience, a practical lesson to be learned and pass on the way to a better life. And if you think all the time, that did not work then, and will not work now, then it is possible to remain a loser forever.

5. Compare yourself

Compare yourself with others, reducing their own importance.

You will never achieve success if you compare yourself with those who are in your opinion more beautiful, smarter, richer, and so on. Remember, you - unique, your experience - is unique, your mind - are yours. Comparing yourself with others, you lose your self-esteem, and other people like Radar feel your self-doubt and treat you accordingly.

6. Envy of others' success

Often envy.

I know the feeling of envy everyone. However, it is worth considering that it is of two kinds: envy that motivates and black envy. There is nothing wrong if the other successes encourage you to work hard and reach certain heights. However, if they are frankly annoying, cause to be angry, or even more, harm the object of envy - it is bad. With this sense of need to fight hard, because it is not useful, but only destroys your identity from the inside, making you weaker and more vulnerable.

7. The shift responsibility

to shift the responsibility and does not admit mistakes.

People who are not able to admit their mistakes and take responsibility for them, we can safely write to the ranks of the losers. And it's not an allegation. The fact is, only through trial and error, we know life, gaining experience. And the same experience comes to us with the knowledge made. If a person is not able to admit their mistakes, and to shift the responsibility to the neighbors, he will repeat them again and again, but learned nothing.

8. Keep trash

to buy and store unnecessary things.

Waste money on all sorts of nonsense - not good, absolutely, as well as to keep it all in your home. Often people with modest financial means spending money on cheap crap and lovingly collected trash at home. So they fill their lives mythical value. While people who have achieved success from the ground up, tell that to the success they have carefully controlled their spending, saved money and invested their knowledge.

9. Work on their own

Avoid teamwork.

Big things are not done alone. Even if you superotvetstvenny, intelligent and competent in their field person, you still will not be able to cope with big business alone. Therefore, people who do not know how to work in a team, do not want to find a common language with colleagues, hide their ideas, will hardly be possible to achieve career heights.

10. adjusts itself to the negative

in a bad mood and set yourself up for failure.

If you do all the time are in a bad mood to dwell on past mistakes, doubt their abilities, say that you will not succeed, to be sure - you really do not work. Proven that our subconscious mind - a powerful mechanism that can be programmed as a success and a failure.

11. Rush

To be in a constant hurry.

We all know the saying - haste makes waste. In fact, those who are in a constant hurry, often do not have time, do not finish until the end, or do on anyhow. In addition, our productivity is greatly reduced, attention becomes distracted, which is why there is a risk to make mistakes.

12. Compete

The habit to compare myself with others and compete.

The habit to compare myself to others - a sign of low self-esteem. The fact that there will always be someone richer, more beautiful and more successful than you, and earnest craving to prove the opposite, to outdo anyone become sole purpose in life. And all would do, but this race will go on forever, and your goal you never reach. Over time, evaluating themselves through others, you definitely lose your sense of self-worth and guaranteed will become miserable.

13. Go with the flow

The habit of hope and go with the flow.

If you are not willing to take responsibility for your life, get out of your comfort zone and take risks, most likely you will remain a failure ready to be content with little. Swim and downstream, hope that everything will somehow get better - for the weak. Strong take the wheel of life in their own hands, and boldly steps to success, without expecting handouts from the "fate".

14. Forget about relatives

to move away from their parents and friends.

If, because of a new job or hobbies you are estranged from family and friends, to break old ties and went headlong into a new life - be prepared that at some point, you are left with nothing, one-on-one with emptiness. Behind the back of any successful person are close friends, relatives, friends or mentors that can support, comfort and forward. They will help not to lose heart in the difficult situation, will kick in when needed or sincerely rejoice at your success. In addition, family and friends - this is the safe haven where you can escape from everyday problems.

15. Live

in the future

To think only of the future.

Like obsession with the past, the dream of a future together could result in a life lived in vain. Postponing repeatedly entertainment, shopping, travel, and you risk not to feel the taste of life. No one knows what tomorrow will bring and whether it will come.

16. Ashamed

to be afraid and embarrassed.

The fear of being ridiculed or not accepted causes people to shy, hiding in his "shell" and not stick out. It is because we often hesitate to give up the opportunity, which presents us with life. For a shy person is easier to give than to declare their wish. Such people do not get into arguments, do not offer ideas, not defending their own opinion, and in general do not stand out, just there. Do not want to be shy biomass - drop the fears, doubts, embarrassment, please be determined to finally assert themselves.

17. Being too self-critical

constantly criticize themselves.

If all the time to look inward drawbacks to engage in soul-searching and criticism, soon you will see that you are a complete jerk. Observe the balance, try to change for the better, and do not forget to enjoy and promote himself for any victory. Also, make yourself believe that every achievement - not an accident, and not a gift from above, and the result of your hard work, you undoubtedly deserve.

18. Do not carry out the promises

To give and not to fulfill the promises.

If you always promise something, make loud statements or simply to voice their plans, but rarely bring it started to end, you can be sure that soon you become to others unfounded loser who only does that philosophizes.