7 erroneous beliefs about sexual abuse

Rape is usually those who are openly worn, walks the streets alone or drunk in a foreign company. Such toxic beliefs about sexual abuse of girls in some create a false sense of security, prevent others cope with the trauma and to ensure that criminals punished. Heroine collected stereotypes about sexual violence, in which people continue to believe.

1. Violence usually strangers

A typical image of the rapist - an unknown man jumping out at you from the corner - not too often encountered in real life. Yes, the attack may be a stranger, but often it's someone from the environment: the guy that crossed a couple of times at parties, friend, neighbor, family member. Because of this, the stereotype of victims is difficult to prove that a close friend committed violence, and it was not consensual sex.

2. The abuser does not control yourself

Violence - it is not an uncontrolled fit of excitement. Men rape because they want to control his victim and hurt her. Most of these crimes is planned in advance, so that rape - this is not the result of overactive hormones or some misunderstanding.

3. women put themselves at risk if frank dress or flirt

One of the oldest and most persistent myths about rape - woman makes itself more vulnerable when putting on revealing clothes. If men are so unable to control themselves, that rush at the girl in a short skirt, it might be worth keeping them in cages? A huge number of guys manage to meet on the streets openly dressed girls, communicate and even flirt with them, not forcing while. This once again confirms that the problem is still not deep neckline.

According to Jacqueline Friedman, studying sexual abuse, there are no studies confirming the connection of the external shape of the person with rape probability. It is known that the perpetrator selects the victim, on the basis of how vulnerable it seems to him whether it is one, if the noise if the resistance will raise. And there is not a single fact that would say that rapists choose victims based on the extent to which she is sexy.

4. You can not give up after one has already agreed to

What you once voluntarily slept with a man does not mean that it is automatically entitled to dispose of your body in the future. You always have the right to refuse. Can you say "no" to the person with whom already had sex, even if your boyfriend or husband. What's more - you can withdraw consent in the midst of sexual intercourse, if felt uncomfortable. Whatever your refusal, it must be accepted partner with respect. Otherwise - this violence.

5. rape victims behave like victims of

Many people think that the rape victim immediately ran to the police, where the waters of all the tears and cries hysterically. Often, those who have experienced sexual violence, behave unemotional or even ironic, play down what happened, and do not want to apply to law enforcement agencies. The fact that a woman has to survive in Russia after being raped, perhaps even worse than the accident itself: several times in detail to tell a stranger in the form of how it all happened; prove that you're not lying and did not give a reason for the attack. The only truth about the behavior of the victims of sexual violence - they rarely act as television dramas characters.

6. If the victim of violence is inconsistent - it lied

According to clinical psychologist David Lisak, an enormous amount of research confirms that sexual violence does not only psychological, but also neurobiological injury.

When someone is going through a trauma, a high concentration of certain neurotransmitters interfere with the normal operation of the hippocampus. Therefore, part of the brain that normally encodes the experience in memory fails. However, the amygdala, which is responsible for our fear reaction, and fixes superactive memories in intensive, sensory fragments.

As a result, a survivor of rape, can clearly remember the details, but not be able to collect them in a clear picture. This is a huge problem that is not taken into account during the investigation of cases of violence.

7. Will you avoid parties and the dark alleys - you will not be raped

There is nothing you can do to reduce the likelihood of sexual violence to zero. The usual advice - do not walk alone at night, do not sit down in a taxi, be careful with alcohol - only help reduce the risk of getting into an unpleasant situation, but does not completely prevent it. Violence happens in public places and in dark alleys, while jogging, and on the way home from work. To think that the victims of rapists - a hostage of certain behavior and therefore less deserving of sympathy, mistakenly.

What can you really do to protect yourself - read the information on how to behave with the perpetrator, to learn self-defense courses and include prudence.

Which of these stereotypes you share?