12 thoughts that harm your mind

This fall, everything is going to somehow failed: the sick, the work on the dam, the rude waitress at the cafe. Sad thoughts capture all consciousness! Why should this happen to me?

Think about it: genius Stephen Hawking, even being completely paralyzed, is not giving up and giving advice, comparing the depression with a black hole:

I want to say that black holes are not as black as they are all presented. It is not eternal prison, as previously thought. Of these, there is a way, and perhaps even in another universe. If you feel that you fall into a black hole, do not give up - there there is a way.

There are a few phrases that absolutely can not pronounce even mentally:

1. "All are better than me,"

Comparison with other - the thief of joy. We often evaluate other people's lives, and it can seriously undermine our state. Every man is his battle, and you can not know about all the troubles that occur in his life. Anyone can make a mistake, everyone has their shortcomings, failures just happen to people. You have no idea what happened to your colleague fun last night.

2. "I - error"

Not only that, it's rough, so it is also hinders your life. Thought fully grasps his head and does not try something new. If you think, "I tried, but failed this time," it will not apply either to your character or to the skills - to only one action. So do not worry about how to try new things. 3. "Always it happens to me"

No toxic words than "always" and "never." Life is not black and white, so it gets rid of all the maximalist views. Much more useful to think of using the phrase "once" or "not yet".

4. "I will not be happy until ..."

Says psychologist Ariana Machin, this pernicious thought slows down and causes to live unhappily, until that day, until you reach the goal. If you learn to live in the present, it would be even happier to get the desired. Think about it.

5. "I hate the way I look"

See flaws in my body - this is normal, but the constant condemnation self-image only impairs your mental health. Focus on what you like in yourself; set goals to be pursued. And do not forget to praise yourself for the fact that to achieve the desired!

6. "I lack the brains"

Absolutely normal to doubt yourself. But if you're not an expert in a certain area, it does not mean that you are stupid. You just different interests.

7. "I'm all wrong,"

You're not broken socket, although desperately themselves in this convincing. Sense of their own defects gradually infects everything that you do and think. This leads to the fact that any minor troubles like a broken cup you begin to justify, "Well, that's me", rather than to strive for accuracy and care.

8. "I can not do it,"

Yes, you can experience the doubts and fear of new things, but do not let fear grab you. Sometimes you say something you can not, do not even try! Risks evolve.

9. "Who cares about my opinion"

If you have increased anxiety, most likely you will be to keep his thoughts to himself. When you think that you can join in the conversation, do not keep your mouth shut.

10. "I do not deserve this success,"

Whenever there is something good, you feel that do not deserve it? Discontinued ignore their positive qualities: effort, ability, achievement and success.

11. "My life will always be so hard"

This toxic idea is stressed that the problem will never disappear. It fills your life undue anxiety and can lead to depression. Of course, your mind is not easy to rebuild, but work on yourself is definitely worth all the effort.

12. "I'm so out of it"

If you think you can not cope with my life because of someone else's pressure, thus ignoring the responsibility for their feelings and behavior. Yes surrounding evoke in us certain emotions, but you choose how to respond.