What to do if you're afraid of change

Waiting for change can be compared to the feeling of how language and brain freeze at the thought of fresh ice cream. Do you think that life after moving house, or a new job is completely different, unfamiliar, and you're not ready for such changes. You sit and worry what will happen next, but does nothing to prepare.

To get started is to understand how changes occur in your life?

Step One. Resistance.

It is characterized by doubt and discomfort, because you actively resist and compare the new situation with the old. Condemn, and you do not see the pros.

Step Two. Trim

Characterized by the fact that you do more than you want. Collects information about how to live under the new circumstances, make the connection, you ask questions. In general, a booming business.

Step Three. You live in the new as in the old

Stage that you do not notice, because he does not look like a stage. You come to a new place and you see so many new options that make it look as if new - it is really old.

Would not it be more effective to just go to the third stage at once? Of course, but it does not work. But, understanding how you move from stage to stage, when you will feel discomfort, then you can say to yourself: "Oh, right, that's what I should feel myself now." How fast you get through these stages? All individually, but the more you tell yourself that everything will end well, so much the better.

This can be compared to swim in the pool. When you first come into it, you are cold and wet, but after 40 minutes of refreshing feeling of weightlessness is so fascinating that you do not want to get out. Nobody warmed water - you're just used to it. So, even if you experience discomfort with the changes in the beginning, I hope that you will soon adjust.

Do not expect anything fabulous from the first second

You do not want to be discharged from the kindergarten, then - start for university, get a job - it was the best time in your life. Everything remains the same: just think you're a master of change in your life! It is impossible to avoid the discomfort, but you can prepare for it, and for this you can use these methods:

to wind off the end and spirit of a time limit

Do you think that really comes of it? Oppose his anxiety facts. Think how much time you will need to adjust to the new schedule: Week? month? Even if a rough estimate does not correspond to reality - the ability to anticipate the completion of adjustment means that the end is possible.

Do not forget to add itself to the equation

You may feel that you are helpless, but you participate in the situation. You can be sure that you have enough experience and tools to ensure that something affected.

What is changing, something is not

Sometimes it seems that with the advent of a new job, relationship or education plans everything has become new. Do not reinvent the wheel - to focus on things that are really changing, and enjoy the fact that nothing has changed in your life. Recognize that there are things that do not require your attention, and save energy to adjust to the changes.

Do not think - do

Most likely, you will wait a motivating kick to feel better. But the motivation follows habits. As soon as you proceed to business, you feel more confident, because I remember the power that can be used. Do not sit and wait until the world returns to normal. Do small good deeds.

The best things in life are due to change, and sometimes even because of the unwanted. We should not take the change for granted, just diving headlong into the ocean. You can start with in order to wet your toes, before heading out to sea.