How to get rid of complexes of childhood

• How to get rid of complexes of childhood

We'll tell you how cleverly disguised complexes principles and prevent each of us. Let it inspire you to overcome your fears.

"You're a girl," - a phrase that a child made me breaking into a cold sweat and struggling to fight the urge to run away. Then I did not understand what a sacred meaning put adults in this meaningful "girl." It seemed all right: to be independent, but not act without permission. Shy, but to participate in school productions at Broadway actress. Curious, but not with the boys to climb trees. Necessarily beautiful, but a little bit ashamed of this. Have their own opinion, but not to argue with adults.

"Be feminine" to - a collection of hundreds of labels. At a young age you reward them, and you will inevitably be influenced by other people's formulas and concepts of "good" and "right." Thus are born the psychological complexes - irrational, illogical conclusions about yourself that you have done on the basis of someone else's experience.

Inferiority complex lives where there is a comparison. If as a child you or your progress compared to the others, or rather the object of adoration you your girlfriend or parents are more loved sister. To protect yourself, you are challenged to herself. Invented "ideal", which should be achieved for everyone to understand how good you are.

It seems that the complex acts as a great motivation, but it is not. The feeling of inferiority will haunt you, even if you earn all the money in the world and become the wife of Bradley Cooper. The insidiousness of this complex lies in the permanent dissatisfaction. Simply put, for myself you'll never be the best. That it is necessary to remember every girl:

1. You are at one, unique and the best. Already for this we must be grateful.

2. Sometimes the path is more important than the goal, sometimes - on the contrary. But it is always important to feel happy right now.

3. It is important to put time and praise yourself for every, even the smallest achievement.

4. "A little party never killed nobody"

Victim complex leads to the fact that you cease to be the mistress of his life. Star blame, horoscopes, gossip and tides - that anything but you. As a child, maybe you've been exposed bullied at school or experienced serious injuries related to violence, and then strengthen the idea that this is your destiny - to endure. We hasten to please, that is not true. Agree on a low income, take on more commitments than there are time and effort, to act out of a sense of duty - this is the position of the victim.

That it is necessary to remember every girl:

1. Responsibility - is the result of your choices and the way in which you build your life.

2. Rely on their own - is not a sign of loneliness.

3. It is important to define the limits and not allow others to violate them without your consent.

4. The other person can make happy only if you're happy in itself.

The complex of the "little man" can not be associated with the growth or size. But one way or another connected with the parameters of appearance, which does not satisfy you. It is formed as a teenager, when all the attention is focused on the performance of peers beauty and sexuality. For example, a classmate joked that you have crooked nose. And this phrase is so much ingrained in my head, even after many years, any joke about his nose makes you want to do rhinoplasty. This complex is hidden behind the desire to control, to be a leader and to compensate for wrongs via effects on other people. However, if it is not overcome, the desire for power can lead to violence and aggression.

That it is necessary to remember every girl:

1. Physical - a reflection of the inner state of harmony.

2. It is important to be able to say to herself a couple of compliments.

3. Care for your skin, hair, body shape and health in general - is a constant indicator of self-love.

4. Your advantages and disadvantages do you you. Admire this uniqueness.

The complex is an excellent pupil is called perfectionism. Maybe in your childhood depreciated just a good result, and relatives were proud of only the highest grade. Or you participated in many competitions, was in an unhealthy competitive environment with the division on "outsiders" and "the best". And now you can not find a partner, because they are all flawed. Either you do not notice the simple pleasures of life. The desire for self-development turns into a hunt.

That it is necessary to remember every girl:

1. Make a pause or stop error does not mean to lose.

2. The result - it's not all you are. Sometimes the process is important.

3. Learn to be strongly coupled: girl, daughter, employee. This is normal.

4. Rest - it is not idleness. But idleness - a holiday, and you need him.

Guilt - this is one of the most profound and persistent settings. Here everything is mixed: fear, shame, aggression, low self-esteem and emotional dependence. He inverts the best achievements, if they do not fit into the scenario of someone from relatives. Casts doubt on the correctness of decisions, it destroys a sense of control over their own lives, thereby depriving you of freedom of choice. That it is necessary to remember every girl:

1. You can only control their own behavior, feelings and life. More draws.

2. You have the right to succeed. And you have a right to make mistakes.

3. You can be angry, to express their views, to disagree and stand on his own, even in a dispute with relatives.

4. Remember that the compromise - it's not when you suffer. This is a situation in which both sides are happy with the result.

On the planet there is no man without complexes. If you have a busy schedule and no time for self-examination, make an appointment with a psychologist. Specialist help to cope with other people's labels and settings that prevent you from living fully and achieve goals. But most importantly, remember that "you're a girl." This means you can be anything you like, but be sure to depart complexes where there is a real concern for himself.